When Will Young Nigerians Talk About Consent And Consensual Sex?

When Will Young Nigerians Talk About Consent And Consensual Sex? - By Ocheibi Abigail

This is actually an article that I wrote in 2017 and in the light of the ongoing rape culture discussion in Nigeria, I’ve decided to go with the old headline as well as leave the major part of the piece unedited. Please read.

There are countless popular topics of discussion among Nigerian youths at their work places, social media, events, clubs and other hangouts but the issue of sexual harassment and consensual sex are often swept under the carpet.

Sexual harassment and rape in Nigeria have been encouraged by a lot of factors where lack of law implementation and silence among Nigerians are a part of it.

This problem should be of great concern to all Nigerians given the current increasing rape cases in the country as well as other forms of  sexual molestation.

There are countless innocent Nigerians who have lost their lives and loved ones to rape and other sexual violence in the country with neither the government taking proactive measures against it nor Nigerians talking about it.

In recent times, celebrities and other reasonable Nigerians have been making efforts to speak against this act which has now become the order of the day not just among the youths but also in marriages. But such an effort has to be a collaborative one where the law is also expected to take its place.

At the moment, “two Nigerian entertainers, Dapo Oyebanjo aka Dbanj, and Tobechukwu Okoh aka Peruzzi are enmeshed in different rape allegations made on Twitter on few days ago.

The allegations surfaced days after the death of of 22-year-old Uwa Omozuwa, an undergraduate who was allegedly raped and attacked inside a church premises and died days later at the hospital. The #justiceforuwa hashtag has trended for days since her death was made public.

Not only are Nigerians on Twitter taking a stand against rape, but they are also urging victims of rape to speak out.

Thus, a talent/model scout, Benjamin Ese, alleged that Dbanj raped his friend two years ago.

Not disclosing the friend’s name, Ese wrote that his friend had attended a party in Lagos and was sighted by Dbanj who wanted her. He went on to reveal how she was allegedly raped by the musician.

The allegation came a day after Dbanj strongly condemned rape on his Instagram page, ” Premium Times Nigeria reports.

Is it difficult to accept the fact that it’s an issue when you sexually touch someone or have sex with them without their consent?

Another baffling question remains, what about those rape victims who do not have the resources to make a case out of it or even bring attention to their plights?

How much do schools/parents in Nigeria encourage and educate students on consents?

If we can successfully and comfortably talk movies, football, fashion, music and more, why don’t we talk sex and the issues that come with it?

How long are Nigerians going to remain silent on that which kills her?

If we most fight this evil act, then all hands must be on deck; government, parents and children alike. We all have a role to play.

We all have to accept NO for No in all matters of sex. Together we can put an end to rape culture in Nigeria.


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